#HonestSinner: Somebody’s Watching!

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1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 says that “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”

Nowhere in that verse does it say we should allow, permit, condone, suffer through or just flat out tolerate love. See when you know what love looks and feels like, everything that you had been “subliminally taught” by sight about love goes out the window.

Subliminally taught? I can feel the corny face looks already with the “wth” is he talking about eyebrow arching.

See it started when you were a toddler and continued into your early adulthood years and may even still be happening now. Your parents telling you what to do and how to do it. Although at this age it’s probably more of a suggestion rather than a command. All the same it can be contributed to that old gnome of “don’t do as I do, but do as I say” discipline or enlightenment. Of course in most cases you probably did follow their instructions to the tee, maybe not exactly the first time around, but I’m willing to bet that when it came to love you followed their example not their advice.

Subliminally taught.

Close your eyes for a second (only after you read what I have to say first duhhh). Now Imagine growing up in a household where you see the adults being loving and affectionate towards each other during daylight hours. They’re kissing, hugging, laughing and giggling all day long when you’re around – holding each other’s hand when the family goes out in public. Opening doors, using pet names in front of total strangers, the whole nine. Ooh but when nightfall comes, when all the lights are off and the house has calmed down and everything has settled to the point of where you can tell what room every little noise is coming from while you’re tucked away in your twin size bed. You start to hear the voices, at first they’re very low and deep. It’s that adult intense whisper that grown ups do when they’re trying to get a point across to each other without making a scene or letting everybody around hear what they have to say. Suddenly they grow louder, now you can make out some of what is being said. You hear a lot of bad words like, “MF’er this MF’er that”, this “B***h here – that B***h word there”. “F you, you wasn’t S**t when I met you and you still ain’t S**t”. Now at this time you become in awe and can’t believe the stuff you’re hearing, listening closely it seems to be another person involved, maybe even a few other people. As you continue to listen in there’s seems to be one voice that keeps repeating itself. You can hear the heartache and tears in its tone as it says over and over “I love you. I would never do you like this.”

That goes on so long that eventually you fall asleep and as you wake in the morning rearing your head from your room door checking for signs of last nights occurrences before you exit but once again all you see and hear is two people who seemingly seem to be happily in love and ready to start their day.

I told you at the begin to read this first and then close your eyes and imagine. Now reimagine the whole scenero. Imagine the adult using all the profinity and the raging voice being the woman, picture the adult crying and looking for answers being the man and the child listening and hearing this type of stuff every other night or on a consistent basis picture them as a little boy now imagine the whole family as being black.

It’s not always what you say as an adult that your child is paying attention to, it’s more often enough what you do and how you do it that gains their undivided attention. So before you use that “Do as I say” speech on them, ask yourself did you do as they said or did you do as they did? Just remember they’re watching way more than they’re listening.

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